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One new member recalls how comforted she felt by the women at the first Jane Does Well dinner she attended, "When my husband announced that he wanted a divorce, I was completely blindsided," she recalls. "Several women sat with me at dinner that night and listened to my story. Although I cried all the way home about being eligible for this group, I held on to their reassurances that I would be okay—and their phone numbers!" Educational events including group discussions with local divorce attorneys and financial planners have helped new members understand what the divorce process entails and the types of professionals who make sense for their "divorce team." Women who have been around for a while continue to find value in these evenings. "We can always use free advice from a divorce attorney," Pavlina chuckles. Other events on the calendar include an evening with an online dat- ing specialist, an expert on spiritual nourishment during change and adversity, and a leader in mindfulness meditation. Growth in Jane Does Well has been organic — a friend mentions Jane Does Well to another friend who is in need. Women come from many different communities, and represent a variety of professions and circumstances. Some, having initiated their divorce, are plaintiffs in their case; others are defendants. Members span life stages, although the majority of women are approaching mid-life. Some are even remarried! "Women remain in our community, even when they remarry," Pavlina says. "They have made great friends and love to help others. Plus we have a great time together. My married friend refers to this group as my fun friends!" Why did Pavlina and Kisiday choose the name Jane Does Well for the community? "Jane" is a nod to the pseudonym Jane Doe and acknowledges that divorce can happen to anyone. "Does well," reflects the most frequent question women ask at the onset of divorce: Will I be okay? "We wanted to reassure women, in our name and in the expe- riences that we offer, that life doesn't end with divorce," Kisiday explains. "While divorce may bring an end to the life they have known, it can also be the beginning of something wonderful." 114 W e l l e s l e y W e s t o n M a g a z i n e | s u m m e r 2 0 1 6 TO LEARN MORE, visit www.JaneDoesWell.org or call 887.445.2372 S U R O J E E T G H A T A K

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