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Sistering Women Helping Each Other Survive and Even Thrive After Divorce L I S A L E S L I E H E N D E R S O N writer M E D I A B A K E R Y 108 W e l l e s l e y W e s t o n M a g a z i n e | s u m m e r 2 0 1 6 local organization Jane Does Well specializes in "sister- ing." The verb "sistering" originated in the construction industry and refers to the process by which a joist — a wooden or steel beam that typically sup- ports a floor or ceiling — is strengthened. By attaching a new piece of frame to the original joist, builders can double the joist's capacity, enabling it to withstand a heavier load. Similarly, Jane Does Well uses sistering to strengthen women going through the divorce process. The positive support provided by its community of women who have been there, combined with its vetted network of trusted divorce professionals and regular events and communications, enables women to thrive, not just survive, divorce. "Divorce is one of the most traumatic experiences anyone can go through," explains Christina Pavlina, co-founder of Jane Does Well. Pavlina speaks from experience. When she found herself in the divorce process five years ago, she felt as if she was living a nightmare. "I was completely undone — I didn't know how I would get through the next hour, much less the whole day." Divorce ushers in a time of intense emotional and financial upheaval that can leave even the most together woman feeling undone. As relationships change, the loss is often overwhelming. Imagine that your spouse, the part- ner with whom you thought you would share a lifetime of dreams and expe- riences, is no longer there for you. Perhaps someone else has already replaced you. Or maybe there is someone new in your life. Whatever the case, it's a

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