WellesleyWeston Magazine

SUMMER 2016

Launched in 2005, WellesleyWeston Magazine is a quarterly publication tailored to Wellesley and Weston residents and edited to enrich the experience of living in two of Massachusetts' most desirable communities.

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kindred spirit. We cooked up a play date on the spot. She was thrilled for him to have something to do too!" That's the other secret that parents don't necessarily know. Kids like to be invited places. It feels good to everyone. "Don't underestimate the power of a well- crafted invite," says Geltman. "Some kids want to make things happen but they don't know how." Another ally in the fight can be teachers and guidance counselors. These educators observe children in real time in the place where much of their social lives play out. Dr. Herzig was a guidance counselor prior to his role as a therapist and says that as long as no confidences are being betrayed, using educa- tors or coaches as sounding boards can be very useful. In the end, sometimes all a family can feel is helpless as their child takes it on the chin socially. But if a child "feels that they have relationships they can draw on when they need them or that they have a safe place in the world emotionally," in Dr. Herzig's words, that child will be able to face the sometimes confounding, sometimes cruel, sometimes thrilling world of friendship. For some par- ents, this starts as soon as that child is born. "Our job is to fill our daughter's cup with so much self esteem that when people shoot a hole in it, it's not going to empty out," says the mother of the special-needs child. "And if we overdo it on the one-on-one time or the encouragement? Who cares?" 157 s u m m e r 2 0 1 6 | W e l l e s l e y W e s t o n M a g a z i n e

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