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"I would call up and say, 'Mrs. Jones, my name is Ireta Metchik. I'm a social worker at Weston COA; I received a call from your son Johnny. He's very concerned about you.' "And she'll say, 'He's always concerned about me.' And I'll say, 'You're probably right, but I'm going to be in the area. Would it be okay if I stopped in to talk with you?'" Metchik says that in almost every case, the parents agree. In fact, they may see it as an opportunity to show how well they're doing. Meanwhile, she gets her foot in the door – and perhaps her eyes on the fridge. Senior specialists can help families clear the emotional underbrush to see their way clear to solutions. "The senior parents portray something a certain way and then when you have the kids there you see something totally different going on," says Wellesley's Thieme. "I'd say for the most part kids love their parents and want to provide for their parents." Metchik agrees, "Often everybody is really on the same page, but no one is communicating." Her approach is to meet with the parent first. "I give the elder the respect to be heard," she says. "Dad might say, 'I really want my kids to help me more, but I don't want to be a burden to them. They're so busy.' " When she brings everyone together and explains the father's reservations, the children say, "Dad, you're not a burden. We really want to help you." 89 s p r i n g 2 0 1 5 | W e l l e s l e y W e s t o n M a g a z i n e

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