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Launched in 2005, WellesleyWeston Magazine is a quarterly publication tailored to Wellesley and Weston residents and edited to enrich the experience of living in two of Massachusetts' most desirable communities.

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appointment if the roads are slippery and then drop the fact that they did into their next conversation with their kids. He also suggests giving children the name of a trusted neighbor they can call if they have trouble contacting their parents. And Abend tells parents that it can't hurt to listen to suggestions their children make about home safety, such as securing loose carpeting, installing grab bars in the bath- room, or hiring someone to stand on the lad- der and clear out the gutter. "You don't have to do all of them," Abend tells seniors, "but if you do some of them, [your children will] understand that you understand, and that will make them less worried." An Indirect Approach As for children, remember when you were young and didn't like to be nagged about your homework or your chores? Mom and Dad probably don't like being nagged, either, about how they run their lives. So try an indirect approach. "I always say it's kind of baby steps," says Gayle Thieme, the director of the Wellesley Council on Aging. Thieme encourages children to accom- pany their parents to Council on Aging events so they can see for themselves the opportunity to meet people and become more engaged in the community. If family isn't around, Linda Clifford, the council's health and social services administrator, can accompany seniors to a COA lunch and introduce them to others. Thieme also suggests that children keep abreast of senior activities and services, and, without being pushy, ask if their parents know about them. With the Internet, it's easy to check listings anywhere in the country. If Mom just clams up when you raise concerns about her well-being, appeal to her maternal instinct. Say it would put your mind at rest if you could just talk about your fears for her. When Aging Comes Between Parent and Child 87 s p r i n g 2 0 1 5 | W e l l e s l e y W e s t o n M a g a z i n e

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