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ing to AARP's online site, various studies have shown that older adults – especially those over 50 – are the fastest growing segment of online dating services. However, one downside that Sarah sees for middle- aged women is that many men look down in age at least a decade. For example, a lot of men who contacted Sarah were in their late 50s and early 60s. Another area man, Robert, who is 53, says that some friends advised him to look online for a 40-year-old woman, but he said he is more comfortable dating a woman his own age. He says his biggest anxiety is that women are just looking for a sugar daddy. "I want someone who is looking to be with a person who is fundamentally good," he says. Robert, who was married for 20 years and divorced this year, was briefly separated in 2004, when he tried JDate.com. This year he signed up for Match.com. He says he sees a real shift in the way people per- ceive online dating between 2004 and today – a decade later. "Fundamentally, people are still looking for companionship and relationships. That hasn't changed. What's different is how we view technology. People seem much more comfortable putting themselves out there online than they did 10 years ago. I think it just shows how comfortable we've all become with social media," he says. Robert, who has had about 10 or so dates since he signed up for Match.com, says casual dating has helped him recover from a serious relationship he had after his divorce. He comments that he "wouldn't have met anyone if he was just sitting at home." As is, he's dated several women he really likes and is spending fun time out of the house. He does note that there have been some disappointments – specifically women who lie about their age or weight, some of the most common things for women to lie about online, according to statisticbrain.com. Another local suburban woman, Betsy, who is 50 and has been divorced for a decade, agrees that while her online dating experience has been largely positive, there have been some red flags with men she has dated. As an example, she points out the man who told her that his ex-wife took out a restraining order against him. Betsy also recalls when she was on Fitness Singles, a dating site for active people, and she was contacted by a man from New Zealand. He seemed fine and even charming, sending her photos of him with his 92 Matchmaker, Matchmaker W e l l e s l e y W e s t o n M a g a z i n e | s u m m e r 2 0 1 4 M E D I A B A K E R Y I think it just shows how at ease we've all become with social media. People seem much more comfortable putting them- selves out there online than they did 10 years ago. 088-096_WWMb14_online dating_v2_WellesleyWeston Magazine 4/24/14 3:31 PM Page 92