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27 s p r i n g 2 0 1 4 | W e l l e s l e y W e s t o n M a g a z i n e and adult playtime brings people together, no mat- ter how old you are. six Talk and listen Communication these days has been boiled down to text messages, email, and voicemails, and the art of conversation has gotten lost somewhere along the way. It's important to take the time to talk about what's on your mind and also remember to listen. You might be surprised by what you hear. seven Go on a date Something magical happens when two people get out of the house, away from the chaos of house- work, children, and the yard. For a few brief hours, you're able to enjoy each other's company again and remember why you got married in the first place. A date doesn't need to be elaborate, but it does need to be planned ahead or it won't happen. eight Say you're sorry Despite what the novel and 1970 film Love Story proclaimed ("love means never having to say you're sorry"), apologies go a long way. Admitting that you did something wrong is always the first step to repair- ing a bruised relationship. That's what we try to teach our children, so it pays to be a good role model. nine Don't keep score Marriage is not a business deal but a partnership, where tit for tat doesn't fly and no one gets fired. If you both put in 75 percent, your marriage will feel 100 percent complete, but if you only put in 50 percent, it will fall short. You are committing to a lifelong relationship, so be prepared to do every- thing you can to make it succeed. ten Don't expect a fairytale Marriage can be bliss, but it also requires an effort on both sides to make it thrive. Little gestures mean a lot. Compliments. Love notes. Holding hands. Don't take your spouse for granted. Say thank you for taking on everyday tasks. Support each other spiritually and through tough times at work. Be on the same team. Make each other a priority. And laugh. A lot. ( PAT T Y L E N Z B O V I E writer ) 026-027_WWMa14_10tips_wedding_v2_WellesleyWeston Magazine 2/1/14 3:10 PM Page 27