WellesleyWeston Magazine

FALL 2013

Launched in 2005, WellesleyWeston Magazine is a quarterly publication tailored to Wellesley and Weston residents and edited to enrich the experience of living in two of Massachusetts' most desirable communities.

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narrative capturing a moment suburban sketches creative expressions last but not least your voice Finding Grace A M Y D W Y E R writer painting a portrait reflections it was unusual for him to call me this early in It's often hard to see grace in our day to day and put oneself the morning. "What's wrong?!" I said alarmingly, checking the in the place of another to understand why someone might be clock. 8:10 am. "Well, I've been in an accident…but, don't worry. addressing you in a gruff manner, or not giving you the respect I'm fine," he replied. "What do you mean?!" I said nervously. you feel you deserve. It's easy to respond in anger, to encourage "Well," he said sheepishly, "I have the feeling the woman who shame instead of grace especially with those we love the most. owns the white minivan I hit isn't going to be too pleased with On this day, I took a moment to catch my breath and reflect me." "Wait a minute," I paused, "Did you say white minivan?" upon my husband before I opened my mouth. I recalled that he Yes, that's right. My husband ran his Jeep directly into the had been under great stress and pressure at work recently, in back of our white minivan's tailgate, in our very own driveway, addition to the demands of family life with three small chil- one cold and blurry winter day. Additionally, he admitted that dren. As I recalled these factors, I found my anger dissolving he was only halfway into the vehicle at the time of the "acci- into empathy. I told my husband it was okay, and I was glad dent," as he had been scraping ice and snow off of the wind- that no one was hurt. shield before realizing that the manual transmission was not properly secured. I can't say that I succeed in choosing grace every day, but in the future, I will try to do so. I try to when my husband and I Did I get angry? Well, of course, I was not pleased! My hus- feel our tempers flare, after our children push our boundaries, band is normally an extremely meticulous and careful individ- the dog tracks mud over the clean floor for the umpteenth ual, who is also very doting and usually scrapes my windshield time, or we blame each other for our lost keys. Choosing grace, off before his own. I am not a terribly patient person by over shame of the other partner, shows mutual respect and nature, less so in the mornings. I'll admit that on any other admiration. As for that tailgate? Perhaps we'll keep it that way day, I likely would have retorted something harsh in nature to to remind us to choose grace going forward in our lives. my husband, in a condescending tone. Instead, my thoughts reflected on a recent posting I'd read on one of the blogs I occa- AMY DWYER is a pediatric nurse and freelance writer. She lives in Wellesley with her husband and three children. sionally follow. It discussed a frustrating incident the writer had We l l e s l e y We s t o n M a g a z i n e | f a l l 2 0 1 3 experienced with her son over an incident of spilled milk on a freshly mopped floor. Frustration begged for her to scream and instill a sense of shame in the child over this careless mistake, but instead, on this day, she chose to show her child grace by saying, "It's okay," with a smile, as she wiped up the spill. 208 Be Creative This page is designed to give our readers the opportunity to express themselves creatively. If you have a short piece of fiction (300-500 words), a poem, illustration, or photograph depicting life in Wellesley and Weston, we would love to hear from you. Please e-mail your submissions to jill@wellesleywestonmagazine.com.

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